And I was thinking....

Before I begin - a disclaimer, My sentiments below are restricted to people's personal lives. Not their actions in public, not their work, and definitely not anything they do that touches anyone else's life in a good or bad way

Carl Gustav - “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

"If I was in that situation, I would have never done that". Or, "If I was given the choice, I would have done it differently". Oh the audacity of our wild thoughts and confidence in one's actions despite never having been in the same situation ever. How quickly we categorize. How quickly we castrate the other's actions.

"Being judgemental" is a bad. And so none of us are to be judgemental-  Myth.
All of us are judgemental. - Fact

What differs is the degree of course. Lets take a small little trip down the memory lane. Think of the latest disaster, broken relationship, story of betrayal, lust or love you heard. Did you have a follow up conversation about it with your friends or family? Did you not have an opinion about why the girl decided to have a live-in-relationsship with the guy, or why the guy broke the girls heart, or why the kid couldnt bear to see himself fail and committed suicide? Ofcourse, they are all the weak, less fortunate, less capable human beings who have succummbed to some weakness/flaw or the other.  And so who just died and made us either moral police or even capable of understanding the other person's life?

Till we've lived another life, in the finest detail and the very same everything, by everything I mean, family, people, food, habits, experiences, friends, situations, lifestyle, money, education, reading, just everything, how in the world are we able to make a judgement about another person's actions in a certain situation? I fail to understand. Coz the above is never possible. I mean cm'mon, if it was me we were talking about, and I was able to even live my life in the best way I thought possible, considering all that has happened and will happen, I would think its a life well-lived. Spare me the other person's plans and actions please. Coz if you and I were so perfect in what we did and how we did it, why do we on an average spend an hour at the least, in a day, wondering why shit happened to either us or our families?

I am not trying to say you shouldnt have opinions, but very often we forget the power of these opinions. Some people dont have them, and they listen to you and your opinion and pass it on to some others. And that is not fair. Not fair to the people you have an opinion about. Coz they never got to discuss or explain their point of view (if they wanted to).

Also, in all fairness, do we really think of things as they are, or more often than not what they seem to be? Prejudice in most of these cases rule. Ha, but then again, prejudice is a timesaver. You dont really need facts for an opinion, do you? Do you seek the facts out? Also, how moot is the point of having an opinion about someone's personal life. I mean, they never did anything based on your opinion did they, neither are they going to change anything based on it. So why generate un-needed energy? Negative or positive?

Lets end with another quote by Paulo Coelho - “We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”