I know the usual... Everyone needs somebody to love; more so, every woman needs to be loved. Yes. True. Yet, my blog questions...and infact...states...that In the heart of every woman, there is this small box which has this small memory, or wants to have this small memory of a man she hates.
Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today! . Thats the opening line from the movie Hitch.
And it couldn't be truer. Every woman wants to be loved, cared for, appreciated, treated like a queen. Ah! Bliss defined in words. Coz no matter how independent you are, you like that comfort of a man holding you close and whispering you little nothings. No matter how strong you are, you like feeling that you have reached that safe haven once you are with him.
But you know how they say, that you need something bad to have happened to you, to appreciate the really good stuff in life? Well that holds true here as well. You need someone to hurt you, in one way or another, so that you can really appreciate the next man who comes along with a your label on him.
Now some women can take this the opposite way, "I won't ever love anyone again". Though I am sorry for being opinionated here, I think thats not necessarily true.
Love again Lady, just don't forget the tiny little black box of hate. That tiny black box is powerful. See, it holds the worst memories of your life quietly tucked away. The one's which brought you regret, shame and maybe even anger. When you start looking, then you know what you hate. You know what you don't like. You avoid Mr. Jerksss..till you get to the final one.
What's the role of Mr Jerk? Or the man you hate? Well he can be more powerful than Mr. Perfect in reminding you how beautiful your life really is, (without him). When something good happens to someone... we become used to it... But has anyone ever become used to hurt or pain? No!! Never will...and Damn those who say that they do. They don't. But pain has this strong strong power to make your realize how great life can be without it. Trust me.
Now let me introduce a even weirder angle to this. Lets say you meet this Mr.perfect X, after being hurt, or being left by Mr. jERK. It's a little too much to hope that MR. Perfect would never hurt you the tiniest bit. At that time when you safe haven is, well... not safe anymore, then what do you do?. Won't this small box which holds the memory of the man who hurt you (I.E, Mr. Jerk) , help you realize what you have when you begin to have doubts about Mr.Perfect too? I believe it will. Coz then the real essence of what's happening in your life crops up.
So, more than anything else, and maybe more than the one who loves you, i think you need someone to hate, or someone to have hurt you. Sounds sadistic I presume, but then the powers of hurt and pain are many. I don't know to wish it upon you or not, but well, at anytime, it will and can help. That I guarantee, just remember how to use it
Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today! . Thats the opening line from the movie Hitch.
And it couldn't be truer. Every woman wants to be loved, cared for, appreciated, treated like a queen. Ah! Bliss defined in words. Coz no matter how independent you are, you like that comfort of a man holding you close and whispering you little nothings. No matter how strong you are, you like feeling that you have reached that safe haven once you are with him.
But you know how they say, that you need something bad to have happened to you, to appreciate the really good stuff in life? Well that holds true here as well. You need someone to hurt you, in one way or another, so that you can really appreciate the next man who comes along with a your label on him.
Now some women can take this the opposite way, "I won't ever love anyone again". Though I am sorry for being opinionated here, I think thats not necessarily true.
Love again Lady, just don't forget the tiny little black box of hate. That tiny black box is powerful. See, it holds the worst memories of your life quietly tucked away. The one's which brought you regret, shame and maybe even anger. When you start looking, then you know what you hate. You know what you don't like. You avoid Mr. Jerksss..till you get to the final one.
What's the role of Mr Jerk? Or the man you hate? Well he can be more powerful than Mr. Perfect in reminding you how beautiful your life really is, (without him). When something good happens to someone... we become used to it... But has anyone ever become used to hurt or pain? No!! Never will...and Damn those who say that they do. They don't. But pain has this strong strong power to make your realize how great life can be without it. Trust me.
Now let me introduce a even weirder angle to this. Lets say you meet this Mr.perfect X, after being hurt, or being left by Mr. jERK. It's a little too much to hope that MR. Perfect would never hurt you the tiniest bit. At that time when you safe haven is, well... not safe anymore, then what do you do?. Won't this small box which holds the memory of the man who hurt you (I.E, Mr. Jerk) , help you realize what you have when you begin to have doubts about Mr.Perfect too? I believe it will. Coz then the real essence of what's happening in your life crops up.
So, more than anything else, and maybe more than the one who loves you, i think you need someone to hate, or someone to have hurt you. Sounds sadistic I presume, but then the powers of hurt and pain are many. I don't know to wish it upon you or not, but well, at anytime, it will and can help. That I guarantee, just remember how to use it
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Cute thoughts in a well arranged manner..
keep it up..
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"you need something bad to have happened to you, to appreciate the really good stuff in life" ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.
I have a question for you? Why all your posting has a bit of blue in them?
K.Kiran.
@ Kiran:
Life is blue...isn't it?
I mean the shade :) ... Well I am not particularly a pessimistic.. but i do think people don't give pain and sadness the credit they should.
Life does not teach you things. Pain does.
Love is not what you remember. Pain is what you do. I just think we need to appreciate the role of this a little more in life.
Tumse baat karna bahut hi mushkil hi baap..I guess you have an answer for everything under the Sun.
Let's see what is this Butter Masala posting all about.
Babes, pain does help appreciate good things, i totally agree...pain also saves us many times from jumping into weird situations in the future..and of course pain once overcome leaves you richer, with more shades and facets that you ever thought you could have had...
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